If you are doing work or looking for work, you might have seen or felt that when it came to choosing a job or work, we would have two priorities at the top of mind:
To find a job where you get enjoyed
To find a job that paid us enough to cover reasonable material needs
But in reality, if you will see, you will find that apart from these top priorities, many of us about 90% tend to have three additional priorities.
– to find a job that will pay not just enough to fulfill our basic needs but a lot more to impress other people – even other people we don’t like very much.
– we want to find such a job that will allow us not to be live at the mercy of other people
– and we hope for a job that will make us well known, esteemed, honored, and perhaps famous so that we will never again have to feel small, neglected, or dependent.
These three additional requirements make working life hugely more complicated and unhappy.
we may get stuck choosing what to do. Rather than being able to focus on the jobs that we are passionate about.
Under pressure, we may make unwise and hasty moves, we might begin to think about those work in which our known one is successful, we involve ourselves in risky schemes and not give our work the time and calm it needs.
We’ll be less creative and original because the dangers of failure seem so great.
What would enable us to make the right career choices is our profound experience of love in childhood. Career choice does not have anything to do with work at all.
When we were children, studying at KG or UKG or even in 1st standard, have we wondered about esteem or honor or wanted to be famous in class. We did what we loved. We didn’t need to prove our-self. we did a lot of creativity because we were passionate about that, not because we wanted applause.
But what happens now when we are looking for a career, we are confused, unable to take the right decision, not able to focus on work that we love or are passionate about.
why? because we became too mature or I say, you forget about your childhood. Or I will say you want to impress other people, want to be well known, esteemed, honoured and perhaps famous personality.
But what about that you love, you are passionate.
Without love there is only one thing Unhappiness. and without happiness, you can’t get motivated at your job or work.
Reading inspirational books, and watching motivational movies will make you temporally motivated.
I am not saying, at the age of 30, you should behave like a child because you want to be successful or want to stay motivated at work.
No, because remember that day when you first time fell in love at adult age.
An experience of adult love further enhances a requisite sense of security. When someone properly loves us, their patience, concern, and tenderness make us feel rooted and welcome on the earth.
Two people who are in love will be happy to sleep in a single room on a floor without even bed. An idea which may not be literally true, but which conveys well enough about our material priorities.
When we are loved, We don’t need to be esteemed, honored, even if we don’t care if no one knows who we are.
We don’t feel compelled to work harder than the task at hand requires. We don’t need to accumulate beyond measure; we are already titans in another person’s eyes. \ So, we faced two situations when we were in love and that was making us stay motivated at what we do love to work.
When people crave power, fortune and fame and they get it. They look like winners but they are in reality unhappy victims.
Excessive achievements are the legacy of an emotionally damaged sense. What you will do for that money where love does not exist.
It may have become second nature to us to try to fix emotional wounds through our career choices. We may not even realize what we are up to.
We should dare to ask: what might I have done with my life?
We may have to acknowledge, with tears in our eyes, how different our path would have been, how many genuine ambitions we sacrificed. How much of what we’ve done every day has been motivated by an emotional absence.
The most astonishing career achievements will never compensate anyone for the lack of love they have suffered.
Work cannot fix a deficit of love. We should enjoy work on its own terms and, in another part of our lives, We should seek redemptive substitutes for the love we originally lacked.